Difference between Love and Passion
How
long does the magic of love? A recent study found that passion,
all a tumult of emotions, usually lasts 12-18 months. When the couple
becomes accustomed to the routine of the union, the fire begins to decrease and
is replaced by feelings of love, unity and serenity with a loved
one, says the American anthropologist Helen Fisher in his book Why We Love.
What
is passion?
More
than an emotion, passion is a strong motivation that drives us and
directs us in order to satisfy the biological need to reproduce. Passion
is persistent and difficult to fade, and when we add reciprocated emotions like
illusion. The passion is mixed with sex drive, but it is very different
from this. Many people confuse passion with the desire for sexual
release, but the passion and longing for sexual satisfaction found in
different brain areas.
What
is love?
As
the relationship lengthens, the passion starts to change; over time is
gradually subsiding and becoming a deep love. It will dissolve those
strong emotions, ecstasy, longing excessive, obsessive thinking, and intense
energy. The couples do not spend all their time looking and caressing. But passion
is transformed into feelings of safety and comfort, a sense of calm in a
successful and happy marriage with the couple, whose life is closely
intertwined with yours.
The
years they make the fire cool and that hearts do not burn, but they love
each other in a different, more warm and confident. Thing that endures is a
loving couple and very deep friendship, a feeling link for that long
coexistence, says
anthropologist.
Why
passion is extinguished
If
the passion in the relationship is eternal, we would spend years devoted
to the obsessive worship of the other; we could not concentrate on anything
else other than your partner, and would be detrimental to daily activities. We
would die of exhaustion, because the intense passion consumes enormous
time and energy. Therefore, our brain calms the storm of romantic passion
and gives us peace, until we return to fall in love with someone else
and form a new bond.
In
fact, the large amount of infidelity and divorce worldwide is the result of our
pulse and again fall in love. But in our brain develop impulses of love
calm and confident; with the purpose of motivating us to remain emotionally
attached to the pair long enough to raise a child together during their
childhood.
The
separation of the couple
When
the relationship has become stable, comfortable and safe, and when the euphoria
of passion has waned, most marriages are accustomed to a lasting
relationship that lacks the enjoyment of passion, some go to marriage
counseling to attempt to renew the passion between them, others seeking
extramarital affair and many get divorced. As Fisher says, "a lot of passion
and love do not focus on the same person; you can feel a great love
for your partner for a long time, and uncontrollable passion for someone
you met recently."
There
is also a form of "double love", in which members of the
couple are still together but are paired with other people. As the couple does
not meet your needs with passion, but do not want to move that
relationship lasting are sincere and reach an agreement to have an affair with
another person simultaneously. So try to enjoy the affection and passion
the couple with another person. However, the ‘double love’ is utopian in
real life, because the human being is by nature jealous and does not share your
love with taste. Couples who practice the "double love"
spend time experiencing their own feelings of possession.
Eternal
love and passion
There
are some long relationships where the passion again is intense at times
of novelty or adventure holidays or different situations in everyday life. But
there are also couples who have been married over 20 years and stay in love
forever. They not only love but also the passion keeps them
together for years in a lasting union. They are partners, sharing their privacy
and also taste good balance autonomy with close by love and passion,
lucky who have!
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